Sunday, April 24, 2011

A New Song...A Fresh Start

Sometimes life is smooth sailing, other times we have challenges that must be met and decisions that need to be made. It can sometimes feel overwhelming and stop us in our tracks. In nature, spring marks a new song, a fresh start, and a time to grow.

Whatever challenges or decisions you have in your life today, please know that you are not alone. Sometimes a new song starts with reaching out to find help and hope.
Other times, it is only through time spent reflecting alone or in prayer that we can truly see our lives for the journey they are.

Our prayer for you this Easter is that you find peace, hope, and love in the beauty around you. And if now is a time of challenge for you, you are able to reach out for the help you need.

May God Richly Bless You on Easter! Find out more.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

A Guy's Opinion of Adoption

Ever wonder what a guy's view of adoption is? Mark shared with me his thoughts on the adoption book So I Was Thinking About Adoption:

"I can see why teenager girls like Megan find themselves in a challenging situation... Your message is one of possibility, and offers an element of hope to everyone."

Get your FREE copy of this book today by visiting www.FreeAdoptionBook.com.

Friday, April 15, 2011

How Do I Explain Adoption to My Family?

Are you making an adoption plan for your baby or child and wondering how you can explain it to your family? Watch this short video to learn how:


How Do I Explain Adoption to My Family? by ncgoldca86

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

The Real Challenges of Single Parenting

Being a single parent is more than just a job. It is a major life situation that will dictate how and what you do for years and years. Throughout those years of raising a child alone, your patience, strength, and sanity will be tried to the limit at times. Making the decision to become a single parent is not one that should be taken lightly. It is a very serious decision and your life will be forever changed should you make single parenting your choice. Before you decide, consider this:

Many women and young girls become pregnant unexpectedly every day. You are not the only one. You are also not alone and there are people out there that can help you to work through this situation. Before you just jump into single parenting, understand that you do have a choice. Becoming a single parent is not an absolute and it does not have to be the direction that your life takes.

Think about whether or not you are ready to sacrifice your life for a child. Children don’t come with instructions and there will be so much that you will need to learn in order to properly take care of this child. If you have twins, that will be even more work. Consider whether you are emotionally ready to give up so much of your own life, some friendships, and possibly even time taken from your education. Having a child requires dedication and a willingness to give everything for that child’s wellbeing and happiness. Can you do that?

With this pregnancy being unplanned, have you really considered this child’s father in his or her life? It’s one thing to take on the brunt of the work of raising a child, but imagine how frustrating and tiring it will be dealing with a potentially deadbeat father. How will you explain to your child that his or her father may not want to be a part of your child’s life? Doing that could really put you outside of your own comfort zone.

Raising a child can be an expensive endeavor. Even with different government programs and family members that say that they will help you, there will be times when, financially, everything will be on you. People often have a lot of positive things to say before a baby comes. When the baby gets here, your expectations for their assistance and their actual level of help may be two different things. You wouldn’t want to start a life around the expectation that someone else will be there for you, because if it doesn’t happen, you could end up disappointed, scared, and overburdened with a child to care for all by yourself.

Before you make your final decision to take on raising a child by yourself as a single parent, you should definitely consider these things. There is always the option to place this child for adoption. Don’t discount the adoption option. It could be a major life-saver for you and this child. Remember, you want to give this child the best possible life…even if it means someone else may need to raise him or her.

Monday, April 11, 2011

5 Reasons to Consider a Bi-racial Couple for Your Baby

When it comes to selecting a family for your unborn child, you will ultimately have the last say as the birthmother. The hopes, concerns, and aspirations that you have for your unborn child are always important and heard. But one common thing that has kept birthmothers from sometimes selecting the best possible families for their child has been focusing too much on the race of the adoptive families. This is especially true when it comes to bi-racial couples.

When a couple is looking to adopt a child, they make a commitment to give that child a healthy and enjoyable upbringing. Their promise to care for the child goes beyond the daily necessities such as food, clothing, and shelter. They are dedicated to helping that child to become a positive and successful member of society regardless of that child’s race or those of their parents.

A bi-racial couple that is looking to open their hearts, home, and lives to an unborn child, such as yours, has an abundance of wonderful things to offer that child. In general, they are often well-educated, successful in their careers, open-minded, and very strong people. Bi-racial couples have overcome so much to make it and they could teach your child about the power of love and sharing that love, regardless of race or background.

In a bi-racial family, your child could have an amazing opportunity to explore and learn to appreciate people as individuals with unique perspectives and upbringings. Being a part of a bi-racial family is not about being “color blind.” In fact, it’s the exact opposite. It’s about being color-“full”, empathetic, and respectful. To be raised with such admirable ideals, any adoptive child that is fortunate enough to have that life experience, has a major advantage over so many that have not been exposed to a variety of cultures and unbiased thinking.

No doubt, there are many questions that you may have as to whether a family that is very diverse is best for your child. To answer some of these questions, here are five factors that could actually make your decision to select a bi-racial couple one of the easiest decisions that you may ever make:

1. Bi-racial couples make every effort to acknowledge and respect all cultural backgrounds. This, of course, would include your child’s culture. Opting for a bi-racial couple to raise your child will almost ensure that he or she understand and accepts that everyone is different, special, and unique…especially your child.

2. Bi-racial couples can bring a variety of different child raising techniques to their parenting experience. Every culture has ways of caring for their babies. Your child could have a chance to be showered with love in ways you may not have ever imagined!

3. Some bi-racial couples also speak multiple languages. In a global world, where the ability to speak more than one language is valuable, your child could gain strong communication and linguistic skills that will serve him throughout his or her life!

4. Bi-racial couples are likely very resilient people. While there are tons of positives about being in an interracial relationship, one of the hardest parts could be dealing with other people’s prejudices. However, a couple that has weathered the storm of racial prejudice will be able to teach your child about the strength that we all need to be strong individuals and comfortable in our own skin.

5. A bi-racial couple that longs for a child will have an unconditional love for that new addition to their lives, regardless of that child’s race or cultural background. In fact, because they have learned to hold onto each other during the wait, they will be even more ready and willing to love their new child with their whole hearts…as one strong and wonderful family!
The world that your child will grow up in is international, multiracial, and extremely diverse. Your child will need to know how to work, live, and love in this world. By selecting a bi-racial couple to care for and raise your child, you are also making a statement that you want your child to be emotionally prepared to compete in this world, which will contribute to his or her long-term success. The majority of bi-racial couples are open to staying in touch with you after the adoption, through letters, emails, photos, and visits.

As a birth mother, you want to give your child the best. What better thing to give him or her than an awesome family that will embrace and celebrate life, culture, and love!