Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Alleviating Morning Sickness

Most women don't think of morning sickness as helpful, but it can be an excellent indicator of pregnancy. Morning sickness usually begins between the fourth and sixth week of pregnancy. This is often the first sign most women get that they are actually pregnant. Therefore, morning sickness is a clue to start taking better care of your health for you and your baby.

No one knows the exact reason pregnant women experience this time of nausea and vomiting. When you become pregnant, your body is going through many hormonal changes, which are normal. The pregnancy hormone, 'human chronic gonadotropin', is believed to be the cause of morning sickness. Not much research has been done on the subject. Low blood sugar is also believed to be a contributing factor of nausea and vomiting during early pregnancy.

Morning sickness does not mean you will be sick and vomiting every morning. It can occur at any time of the day or night. It varies from woman to woman and can be brought on by many different things. Knowing what can cause your morning sickness to worsen can be helpful in preventing severe symptoms. Unfortunately, in some cases, nothing can be done to lessen the severity of morning sickness. If you are vomiting more than twice a day or think you may be losing weight, contact your doctor. He or she may prescribe medication that can lessen the symptoms of morning sickness.

Morning sickness can occur regardless of your lifestyle, but there are many factors that may contribute to causing it to be more severe. Click here to find out some things you can do that may help prevent the onset of nausea and vomiting.

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Pre-Natal Care

Getting the best prenatal care early in your pregnancy need will make a difference in your quality of your delivery and afterwards. A pre-natal vitamin and a balanced, healthy diet will help you keep strong. Plus, your emotions and hormones are less likely to take over when you have been eating properly. That means getting information from your doctor. If it is suggested that you take an iron supplement, make sure to do so. Read about how to keep healthy from this book about pregnancy, for women considering adoption. There is a chapter titled "Taking Care of You" in the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption...Considering Your Choices. You can download a free copy at www.FreeAdoptionBook.com.

Pre-natal vitamins are wonderful for your nails and hair. I know a number of women that take them long after giving birth to strengthen these two areas. If you need help finding a doctor, call the Pregnancy Help Online hotline at 1-800-923-6784.

Tuesday, March 08, 2011

I Have an 11 Month Old & I'm Pregnant Again!

Hi, My name is Kristin and I am a mother of an 11 month old and recently found out I am pregnant again. We have been using protection so this is a very unexpected pregnancy. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and he is not very excited about having another baby. I am getting so worried that I will not be able to handle another baby at this time in my life. We are so overwhelmed right now. There is never enough time or money to go around. My boyfriend doesn’t help out that much; he says that since he works all day he shouldn’t have to work when he gets home. I am already overwhelmed and cannot even imagine what will happen when the new baby comes. Please help.

Dear Kristin,
it is normal to feel overwhelmed and anxious when an unexpected pregnancy occurs. Just know that you are not alone and that many women before you have gone through the same thing. It is not unusual for woman to have children close together. And it is definitely not unusually to feel anxiety about your ability to handle the situation.

Right now it is probably best to try and relax and get your bearings on the situation. You need to look at your life and ways that you can make things more comfortable for you and your family. Listing the areas you are concerned about may be helpful. Also look at how each of those areas can be worked on. Try to sit your boyfriend down and discuss your concerns. The two of you can brainstorm ways of making your situation work for your family. Do your best to keep him involved in the pregnancy and your feelings and concerns. He cannot be there for you if you don’t tell him what it is you need from him.

If you are feeling the stresses of money you can look to specific counseling organizations that can help you balance your financial life before your new baby comes. For stress related to not having enough time you can try to allocate your resources differently. Possibly using a day timer will help you organize your time better.

Keep your options open and be willing to look at all the possibilities for making your life what you want it to be. If you know you want to keep this baby you can definitely make it work, you will just have to put in the effort to find the best way to make it work for your family

If you have ever thought about adoption you could try to find a group or person who you can talk to about your concerns and help you work through the possibilities. You have many options to consider. There are many organizations that can be very helpful and informative without any pressuring you into making any decisions.

Just remember that many woman have been in your situation and got through it just fine and so can you.

Thursday, March 03, 2011

I Had an Affair With a Married Man

Q: I am a 24 year old single woman, I had an affair with a married man, and he ended up staying with his wife. I got pregnant and gave birth to a son, but did not list him on the baby’s birth certificate. The man doesn’t acknowledge me and I don’t want to hurt his wife but I do want to put the baby into a home with two parents, but not with him and his wife. We never completed any kind of paperwork and he never acknowledged paternity of the baby. Can I still go through with an adoption plan with out his signature or knowledge or what can you do to help me? This guy and his wife do have other children together and I just want to do what is right for my baby and adoption would be the best for him. Can you help me?

A: Actually, there are options and an adoption center can advise an attorney involved on how to help you. There is no cost to you and you don’t have to speak to the father of the baby and his wife normally will not have to be notified. The best thing for you to do it to contact an adoption center and ask to speak to an adoption attorney to find out more about your rights. This can be done by phone and is confidential and at no cost to you. It does not obligate you to adoption but allows you to get some facts before you decide. Visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com and contact them to get more information. Or, you can call the 24 hour answer line to speak to one of the adoption coordinators at 1-800-923-6784. You have several options and there many families to select from. The attorney will take care of the paperwork and the adoptive parents will cover the cost of the legal paperwork: I hope this helps.

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

Dealing with Anger and Hopelessness After Placing Your Child for Adoption

As a birth parent, you may encounter feelings of hopelessness and anger directly after your baby’s birth. You might feel anger towards yourself, or even your baby. Keeping a journal throughout your pregnancy will help you address your feelings early on. Write down your thoughts about keeping your baby and your thoughts about finding your baby an adoptive family. Keep this journal throughout your adoption experience; it will be helpful to read after you have placed your baby in a loving home. For a birth father, a journal will also help you come to terms with the decision you and your baby’s mother have come to.

Reading your thoughts and your daily feelings about placing your child for adoption can help remind you of the plan you made. You decided adoption was right for you. You did not come to this decision lightly, but your feelings anger and depression can still be upsetting to you. The greatest gift you can give your child is a happy, loving home. Yet even after you have done just that you may be consumed by feelings of anger and hopelessness. Your head may be telling you that you did the right thing but your heart is in so much pain. How do you work through those feelings of anger, despair, and hopelessness?

Acknowledging your feelings will help you cope with them. Unresolved anger can affect your whole body. You may not be sleeping well and feeling tired constantly. Finding someone to talk to will help you vent your feelings in a safe and healthy way.

You need to have an outlet for all your feelings because unresolved frustration can start to form a wall around you. This wall will begin to affect you and those around you and it will be hard to you to see the good in life. You don’t have to find a counselor to talk to, just find someone who can listen to you; maybe a priest, clergyman, your family, friends, or possibly a support group if there is one in your area. Just find someone you can trust. Your adoption coordinator can also be a resource and help you find peace.

Lastly, remember that you have made the right choice for you and for your baby. You have done what many wish they could do; you found the best most loving family to raise a child that you couldn’t at this time in your life.

This is a selfless, wonderful act that you should be proud of. By writing down your feelings throughout the adoption process, you are giving yourself a reference point to always look back on. When you feel anger and hopelessness overwhelming you, just look back at your journal and all your thoughts and feelings that helped you form your decision. Those words can be a comfort to you as you confront your decision and come to terms with your feelings. Finding someone to talk to will also help you work through your unresolved feelings of anger and hopelessness.

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

Are You Ready To Be A Mom?


Becoming a mother is very natural for some and very difficult for others. When it is a personal choice, people tend to have a more positive outlook toward becoming a mother. When someone becomes a mother as a result of an unplanned or unexpected pregnancy, their feelings and outlook may be less positive and filled more with negativity. Whichever situation you have found yourself in, there are some things to be considered as you embark on this new experience. You will need to ask yourself this all important question, “Are you ready to be a mom?”

Before you answer, here are 10 things that you need to seriously think about:

1. Are you emotionally ready to handle being pregnant for 36-40 weeks of your life?
You may go through a number of different feelings during that time that could range from elation to doubt to self-consciousness.

2. Are you ready to make a sacrifice for your baby?
Children do not come with instructions. They require a lot of time, energy, effort, and sacrifice for their proper care. A mother fills the voids for a child, which can mean that the mother's own personal interests may have to be put aside at times for the good of her family. Along with the personal sacrifice that a mother gives up for her child, there are daily challenges that she should be prepared to face with regard to the child's rearing. For a teenage mother-to-be, this could mean that you can't hang out with friends when you want to or that you have to rely on others for support. Ask yourself if you are willing to do that for your child.

3. Are you financially able to care for a baby?
Babies cost a lot of money. For starters, they need diapers, baby wipes, hygiene products like baby powder and lotion, clothes, carriers and strollers, cribs and other furnishings, food, milk, and health care. This is all for the first couple of months of life and you can just imagine how much more they will need as they grow. The important thing about determining whether or not you can "afford" a baby is to consider your own resourcefulness. While you may not have tons of money, there are programs that are designed to help new mothers that may be able to provide assistance to your family. Also consider the baby's father and his contribution if you are not married. Above all, anticipate always needing to take care of your baby's needs and along with that you can anticipate needing some finances.

4. Are you ready to be your child's teacher?
Mothers are the first teacher that a child will have. Babies are a blank slate and will look for their mother to teach them what they need to know to make it in life. You don't have to personally know everything, but your child will believe that you do. As you live your life, your child will learn what to do, what not to do, what is good, and what is bad...mostly by watching you. Your child's hopes and plans for the future will be shaped by the life that you lead before them.

5. Are you ready to go through childbirth?
Having a baby is a life-changing experience. For some, the change will be for the better. For others, the change will seem to be for the worse. Either way, it is something that you will never, ever forget. Along with the pain associated with childbearing, there are emotional and physical highs and lows which will determine your attitude about your child-bearing experience.

6. Do you have support?
Support can come in a number of sources. It could come from a spouse, a partner, a social service organization, an adoption agency, family, or friends. Support may come in the form of emotional support, physical care, or financial assistance.

7. Are you ready to give someone unconditional love?
Babies rely on the love of their mothers. The feeling of safety, security, nurturing, and peace that they need comes from the love that a mother gives to her baby. This unconditional love will need to be a fixture in your child's life as they experience their own ups and downs, and as they learn to grow and live. It's a love that is not supposed to change with fashion, but it should be there at all times.

8. Are you prepared to face the long term challenges of being a mother?
Parenting happens over a lifetime. Your baby has certain needs now, but those needs could be even greater as they grow older. Your baby won't stay a baby forever and you should be prepared to deal with the changes and challenges that life will bring your family regarding your child's upbringing and care.

9. Are you healthy enough to carry a baby?
You should take stock of your own health, physical and emotional. Consider your relationships and the impact that they have on you psychologically and physically. It may be time to visit your primary care physician to find out if you are physically ready to undertake a pregnancy. Your baby will need a stable, healthy environment to grow up in and that includes having a mother that is able to attend to his or her needs.

10. Do you want a baby?
Deciding whether or not you want a child can be a key to determining whether or not you are ready to be a mother. If you are not ready to make a long term commitment to your child and you are already pregnant, then there are some options that you should consider, including adoption. Through adoption, your child could have a healthy and stable life in a caring and loving home, if you are not able or willing to provide these for your baby. Visit LifetimeAdoption.com to find out more about adoption.
If you are not already pregnant, then you should make the decision as to whether or not taking on the added responsibility of a child is right for you. Don't make any snap decisions. Always weigh out the pros and cons of your personal situation, including determining whether or not your partner wants to be a caregiver to your child also.

Make the decision to become a mother will forever change who you are and will shape who you will be. Put a lot of thought and prayer into it. Remember, there are at least two lives at stake...yours and that of your unborn child. If you would like to look into adoption as an option, visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com for info.