Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Should Madonna adopt another child? Watch my CNN interview!

Celebrity adoption is a hot topic right now, and I will be appearing live on CNN’s Roland Martin Show tonight!

I will discuss the advantages of adopting domestically vs. internationally and the impact that celebrities such as Madonna have had on adoption.

You can watch at the following times:
5:00pm Pacific Time
6:00pm Mountain Time
7:00pm Central Time
8:00pm Eastern Time

Tune in to CNN to watch live! As always, I look forward to this opportunity to educate and inform others about the blessing of adoption.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

MTV's True Life Series

The “True Life” documentary series on MTV just aired an episode titled "I'm Placing My Baby for Adoption." The show follows several expectant parents on video, all considering creating adoption plans for their respective children.

According to the show’s producers, the goals of the True Life adoption documentary are “to help de-stigmatize the adoption process and to show that adoption is a choice that loving, responsible mothers make when they believe it’s best for their child. We also hope to express the range of emotions birthmothers feel as they go through this process.”

The show gives a great glimpse into the decision-making process of adoption. This episode follows two different girls (birthmothers) on their journey of open adoption. It really gives you a good idea of what emotions and situations the adoptive parents AND the birthparents experience in the process.

For more information on the adoption decision, here are some links:

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Pregnancy Disability Leave

If you live in California and your employer has 5 or more employees, the Pregnancy Disability Leave applies! An employer must allow an employee time off work if she has a pregnancy-related disability and the employer also must reinstate the employee to her prior position upon her release to return to work.

No matter how long she has been employed, a pregnant employee is entitled to Pregnancy Disability Leave (PDL) if she provides an appropriate medical certification. PDL should not be confused with other types of leave. It has two significant components:

1. The right for the employee to take up to four months leave and
2. The right to reinstatement in her position. Please call the California Labor Board for more information. Let your adoption professional also know. Print this out for your employer.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Learn More About Adoption

Whether you are just starting to explore adoption or you are searching for an adoptive family that fits what you are looking for, we can help you learn more about adoption and locate the resources you seek.

Follow the links below to learn more about adoption and how we can help and support you in choosing your child's future.

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We can send you more information via email or by Federal Express. All correspondence is confidential if requested.

Frequently Asked Questions About Adoption
Find answers to many questions commonly asked by pregnant women or others considering adoption. Perhaps you will find answers to your questions here as well.

Ask the Adoption Expert
Do you have any pressing questions about adoption today that you'd like answered? Now, you can ask the adoption expert, Mardie Caldwell! Visit AskTheAdoptionExpert.com and ask your question today.

Pregnancy Questions
Information about pregnancy options, symptoms, and answers to questions for unexpected pregnancies. Especially good for pregnant teens.

Katrina's Story
A touching story of two women who lovingly chose adoption.

Wednesday, March 04, 2009

Recognizing and Dealing with Negativity

It's only natural that we want to be "right" or feel that we are handling every situation to our best ability. But, the truth remains that it is not always the case. This becomes especially evident when we deal with people that are considered difficult, verbally aggressive, or just negative. They seem to bring out the "worst" in us and, unfortunately, they seem to recognize and (for some) enjoy it.

These battles cause us a lot of emotional distress and can make life seem a bit burdensome. What can you do to "get along" with them and not drive yourself into a frustrating tailspin? Try these strategies for recognizing and dealing positively with the people and the situations:

1. Make an effort to "keep your hands clean". In other words, don't get into any situations with them that would cause you to step outside of your comfort zone and become as aggressive or stubborn as they are. Take the high road and a more progressive approach. If there is a problem, offer solutions. If there is a personality issue, let them know that you will "consider" their views, or that you hadn't looked at something from "that perspective" before. But, above all, don't give in to their railings.

2. Don't worry about being right. Everyone has an ego and most of the time, people want their ego to be stroked. While you don't have to "lift" people up, you also don't have to be the one to tear them down. If the person is wrong, you may need to hold your peace if it is not a pressing or endangering situation. Let them be wrong. You don't have to prove to them that you are "right". It will only make them resent you more and they will seek to make things difficult for you...all of the time!

3. Earn their respect. This may be tough, but it's not impossible. People that are combative generally know who they can get to spar with them or who they can intimidate. Don't be either one of those people. Be a rational "non-participant" and don't become involved with their antics. They will notice that their "tricks" don't work with you and, if you continue to maintain your self-respect, they, too, will grow to respect you.

4. Do your best not to internalize what they say. It will only make your life miserable. Remember, misery loves company and often, their aggression is a manifestation of their own internal turmoil. Recognize that, forgive them if need be, and go on.

5. Don't let them hinder you professionally. Whether a person is a "yes man" or conscientious objector to everything that you say or do, let them be who they are and work around them as much as possible. If the person is someone that is a gossip, if they hold grudges, if they are the office intimidator, let them be. If it's your boss and they do all that they can to find fault, let them be. Your personal success is about you. As long as you do what you are supposed to do with a positive outlook, stay focused on working to your full potential, and communicate as needed, your endurance and personal strength will help you to get through anything that these difficult people throw your way.

Life is full of difficult people. When you recognize that someone could make your life more stressful, do all that you can to handle what they throw your way with rationality and grace, avoid confrontation, forgive them before they ask, and stay on track with being the best you that you can be. If you do these things, then will always "BE RIGHT"!