Thursday, July 31, 2008
In the U.S. alone, at least one-third of the population has been touched by adoption. Yet there are many in our communities who do not truly understand adoption. Lifetime Adoption Foundation has been working hard since its launch in 1998 to educate communities about adoption and to assure that women are aware of ALL possible choices.
Lifetime Adoption Foundation is dedicated to the development of healthy and fulfilling futures. Through Lifetime Foundation’s services, women can find housing, clothing, food, and emotional support during pregnancy. Birth mothers deserve the opportunity for a future after adoption in the same way they have ensured a healthy future for their child.
We help provide these services through:
* Educational opportunities for birthmothers who have lovingly chosen adoption.
* Adoption grants for families opening their hearts to hard-to-place children.
* Assistance to birthparents in need of basic necessities.
* Nationwide Outreach education about adoption.
For women who have chosen adoption, Lifetime Foundation provides an opportunity to reach their goals for the future. Scholarships for college and vocational training are available to birthmothers.
Birthmothers may find more information about Lifetime Foundation and how to apply for an educational scholarship by visiting www.LifetimeFoundation.org
Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. (Certified Open Adoption Practitioner) at 11:04 AM
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Are you considering adoption and just want to know where to go to get some answers? Need to know what to do and what questions you should be asking? Well, relax; we can help you find the answers and choices that you will feel comfortable with, all in the privacy of your own home.
Decisions can be hard to make when you don’t have the information you need. That is one of the biggest challenges those considering adoption encounter.
What do I do now? Who can I trust to help me?
Here is a list of common questions to ask when looking into adoption:
• What do I need to do next if I am considering adoption?
• Can I have a say in who will adopt my baby?
• What if I am not sure about adoption?
• What happens at birth?
• Who will take the baby from the hospital?
• Can I get some help with my expenses while I am pregnant?
• I can’t raise the child I have now- do you have families ready to adopt an older child?
• Does my family have to know about the adoption?
• What if I don’t know the father of the baby? Can I still make an adoption plan?
• Do you have housing or somewhere I can live while I am pregnant?
If you would like to speak to someone by phone, there are professionals available 24 hours a day to help you. Call 1-800-923-6784, these loving women have helped others in difficult situations. You will not be judged or pressured- talking is the first step to help you get the answers that you need.
And here are some websites others have found helpful:
On these websites, you can also chat with a professional online about your specific needs and concerns.
Remember it is all going to be ok- Help is only a click or call away.
Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. (Certified Open Adoption Practitioner) at 10:43 AM
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Do you have questions about the adoption process? Below you'll find answers to many common questions about adoption that other pregnant women have had. Perhaps you will find answers to your questions here as well. Speak to a caring professional now by calling Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784.
1. What is Open or Semi Open Adoption?
In open adoption, you may choose the adoptive family yourself, rather than having an agency make this choice. Lifetime provides a nationwide selection of loving families who are waiting to adopt. You may also decide on the amount of contact you wish to have. Some women want letters and photos, others want visits or phone calls after the adoption, and some want no contact at all. You may choose the family that best meets your needs and those of your child, or if you prefer, we can select a family for you.
2. Why choose Lifetime Adoption Center?
Regardless of your decision to parent or choose adoption, you’ll receive personal, compassionate attention. We care about you and your child and provide free, ongoing guidance. We have licensed counselors available to help with your adoption decision and sort out feelings you may have. Lifetime Adoption can also refer you to qualified and sensitive physicians, childbirth educators, maternity clothing, housing, and public assistance.
3. Are there any costs to me?
There is no cost to you as a birth parent. Adoptive parents pay for legal fees, reasonable pregnancy-related expenses, medical bills not covered by insurance, consulting, and counseling fees. If you have state or private medical insurance, the adoptive parents may be able to pay any portions unpaid by insurance, such as co-payments. Payment of living expenses can only begin after you have filled out the required forms, selected the adoptive parents, and have both agreed to go forward with an adoption plan.
4. What if I go into labor and have not made an adoption plan?
You can call Lifetime Adoption directly from the hospital. We can have a family available for you within hours. In most states, the adoptive family will be able to take the baby home from the hospital, avoiding foster care. This way, your baby can start bonding with their adoptive family right away. We are open for emergencies on all weekends, holidays, and throughout the night.
5. How do I know this is a safe family for my child?
Lifetime screens and pre-qualifies all the adoptive families that are working with us. A licensed social worker will do a detailed home study evaluation and visit the adoptive family’s home. This home study evaluation includes a background check, medical evaluations, financial and FBI screening. You can be assured that your baby will be raised in a loving and safe family environment. If you wish, you can speak personally to families and decide whom you feel you want to adopt and raise your child.
6. What if my child is older, can I make an adoption plan?
We have loving families seeking children of all ages and races. It is our policy not to separate siblings, so we work hard to find just the right family for you to interview for the adoption. You will be able to decide on the type of contact you wish after the placement.
7. What if my child has a disability or medical problem, are there adoptive families available? I don’t want to put my child into foster care.
Yes, there are adoptive families that are prepared and trained to parent a special needs baby or child. Just call Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 and receive details on how to get started. There is a home for every child.
8. My baby will be African American-do you have black families available?
With infertility on the rise, more childless African American and bi-racial couples are turning to the Internet for adoption to build their families. Visit AfricanAmericanAdoptionsOnline.com to view waiting adoptive families that are African American and bi-racial. You can read about the lifestyle of these prospective families and view their photos before speaking to them on the phone.
Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. (Certified Open Adoption Practitioner) at 1:06 PM
Thursday, July 03, 2008
After I found out I was pregnant, I was positive of my choice to parent. Many people, including my best friend and sister, tried to force their opinions on me. Some said I should have an abortion; others said I should give the baby up for adoption; and still others insisted I should keep the baby. I was really scared, but I thought my only choice was to keep my daughter. My mother had me when she was just 18, and I turned out fine. I just kept thinking that if she could do it, so could I. I really never even considered an abortion.
I did consider adoption, but felt like I would be giving up if I just gave my daughter away. Thoughts of being a failure overwhelmed me, and I thought if I tried hard enough I could be a good mother.
So I had my daughter. I knew my boyfriend was going to have little to do with the baby and me, but I was prepared for that, and I did the best I could. My mother and sister were willing to help me out where they could. But as the days went on, I realized that I was not providing the best home for my daughter. I was going to high school all day and trying to work at night, staying up until 1 and 2 in the morning trying to get my homework done. I felt I was doing the best I could with everything in my life. Then one evening I was leaving my job at the mall, and I saw a family leaving at the same time.
The mother and father were holding hands with their child in between them. The little girl was counting “1, 2, 3” and then the parents were lifting her up in the air as she yelled with delight. I stopped dead in my tracks. Suddenly I realized, “Somewhere is a family that can provide that kind of home for my daughter. A mother and father are out there just waiting for a child to love.”
I started thinking about why I hadn’t chosen adoption for my daughter. I realized that I had not wanted to explain it to everyone. I wasn’t thinking about what was best for her or even what was best for me, I was just thinking about what others would think. I decided that my daughter was the most important thing in the world and she deserved me at least checking into adoption. She deserved the chance to have the life I dreamed of for her. I had heard about open adoption and how I could know how she was doing throughout her life. So I got the information I needed.
I found a really cool couple to adopt my daughter. They send me pictures and updates of her almost every month. Now when people ask why I chose adoption, I simply answer, “Because my daughter is the most important thing in the world to me. And she deserves to have the best parents in the world.” My choice was the right one for me and for her.
If you would like to receive more information about adoption like I did, here are some sites of organizations that can help you.
Here is an adoption answer line. They helped me with my questions and can help you, too: 1-800-923-6784.
Posted by Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. (Certified Open Adoption Practitioner) at 11:08 AM
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