Thursday, August 28, 2008

I Have an 11 Month Old and I’m Pregnant Again!

Dear Mardie,
Hi, my name is Kristin and I am a mother of an 11 month old and recently found out I am pregnant again. We had been using protection so this is a very unexpected pregnancy. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and he is not very excited about having another baby. I am getting so worried that I will not be able to handle another baby at this time in my life. We are so overwhelmed right now. There is never enough time or money to go around. My boyfriend doesn’t help out that much; he says that since he works all day he shouldn’t have to work when he gets home. I am already overwhelmed and cannot even imagine what will happen when the new baby comes. Please help.

Dear Kristin,
It is normal to feel overwhelmed and anxious when an unexpected pregnancy occurs. Just know that you are not alone and that many women before you have gone through the same thing. It is not unusual for woman to have children close together. And it is definitely not unusually to feel anxiety about your ability to handle the situation.

Right now it is probably best to try and relax and get your bearings on the situation. You need to look at your life and ways that you can make things more comfortable for you and your family. Listing the areas you are concerned about may be helpful. Also looking at how each of those areas can be worked on. Try to sit your boyfriend down and discuss your concerns. The two of you can brainstorm ways of making your situation work for your family. Do your best to keep him involved in the pregnancy and your feelings and concerns. He cannot be there for you if you don’t tell him what it is you need from him.

If you are feeling the stresses of money you can look to specific counseling organizations that can help you balance your financial life before your new baby comes. For stress related to not having enough time you can try to allocate your resources differently. Possibly using a day timer will help you organize your time better.

Keep your options open and be willing to look at all the possibilities for making your life what you want it to be. If you know you want to keep this baby you can definitely make it work, you will just have to put in the effort to find the best way to make it work for your family

If you have ever thought about adoption, you can talk to a caring coordinator at Lifetime Adoption. They will talk to about your concerns and help you work through the possibilities. You have many options to consider. They will not pressure you into making any decisions.

Just remember that many woman have been in your situation and got through it just fine and so can you.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

We Can Help With Maternity Clothes and More!

Are You a Lifetime Birthmother?
We Want to Help and Bless You....

We Can Help With Maternity Clothes and More!
One way we are able to help women facing an unplanned pregnancy who are considering adoption is by offering maternity clothes, household items, and other necessities at no cost to you.

These items are available at no cost to you. Many of the items are one-time donations and are offered on a first come, first served basis, so please send us your request as soon as possible. In the past, some items have been very popular and go quickly. We are always getting new items to help our birth mothers, so please let us know what your needs are and we will do our best to help you right away.

To request items from Lifetime Adoption Foundation, simply fill out the request form at You may fill it out at this website, or print it and fax (or mail) it to the address listed. Please allow time for processing and shipping. During the holidays shipping can be delayed. If you have an urgent need, please contact your adoption coordinator personally, or call us at 1-800-923-6784.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

16 and Pregnant?

No, it can't be...
How will I tell my parents?
What will my boyfriend say?
I'm too young to be pregnant...
I'm too young to make these decisions!

Are you struggling with these or similar thoughts? Have you just learned you are pregnant? Have you been hiding a pregnancy for a while?

We can provide confidential help as you face these questions. You have decisions to make, and you are the one who will be the most affected by the choices you make.

There is hope.

There is life after an unplanned teen pregnancy.

There are choices that you can be proud of.

You are not alone. Help with your choices is available 24 hours a day by calling 1-800-923-6784. We also offer confidential live chat throughout the day. Take the first step by asking for help.

Thursday, August 07, 2008

Open Adoption Today

When a woman is faced with an unplanned pregnancy, many people think of adoption as it was twenty years ago, when a woman didn't have the choices in adoption that she has today. So much has changed for the better. Now, through open or independent adoption, birth parents, children, and adoptive families can come to know each other and make decisions that are best not only for the baby, but for everyone involved in the decision.

Your child will always know you, the birthmother, wanted the best for them and loved them very much and selected the best family to lovingly parent, nurture, and guide them through a happy and safe life. You have an opportunity to know, meet and develop a relationship with your child's adoptive parents before the baby is born. If your child has already been born, you will see how you and the prospective family respond to one another.

The choices are yours
Did you know that at the hospital you can receive, if you would like, a copy of your baby's birth certificate that includes footprints, the baby's wrist band, a lock of hair, and photos of you and your baby? In addition, you can hold and feed your baby, and some birth parents even choose to name their baby. Some of our birth parents decide it would be easier not to see the baby right away, and others want to. The choice is yours. Please feel free to call us for more information, or if you would like to speak to a birth mother who has chosen adoption for her child.

Adoption has changed in the last 20 years
Open adoption is now allowing birth families to make the choice to have ongoing contact with adoptive families. Not all birth parents are interested in ongoing contact and should not feel badly if their choice is to not continue contact. Many birth parents have told us that they really want the child to know they were loved enough to want the very best for their child, that's why they choose the adoptive parents. When birth parents are able to speak to and meet the adoptive family that will adopt their child, they are able to determine if the family has the qualities that are important to them.

We encourage birth parents to look beyond the physical appearance and read through the profiles for the lifestyle and values that the child will be raised with. In doing these few things, they will have a greater peace about their choice, allowing them to go on with their life and feel they have made the right decision.

Often we receive questions about the screening process of the families. We are seeking quality families that we feel we can help adopt, and are ready for the dedication and commitment to adoption. Families need to be able to pass a home study that consists of an FBI background check, financial verification, medical exam, home inspection and a clear child abuse report. This can give you peace of mind. We are here to help with your decision and future.

We offer a number of additional services to birth parents. We can provide a referral to a non-profit foundation that provides educational scholarships to women that have gone through an adoption plan in the last 5 years.

Call Lifetime Foundation, a non profit 501(c)(3) charity for more information, (530) 432-7383. We can help you find out more about housing, counseling, and free maternity clothing.