Monday, January 08, 2007

Babies Abandoned and Left To Die

How Can You Help Stop This Tragedy?By Mardie Caldwell

In the United Kingdom an abusive father killed his infant daughter because he believed she was possessed by spirits. A newborn baby boy was found abandoned between two garages in Derbyshire. The infant was alive, but in poor condition after spending the night exposed to freezing temperatures.

One week before this child was found, a set of twins was found in a cardboard box outside Birmingham's Heartlands Hospital. The baby boy and baby girl were a month premature and dumped hours after birth. These babies were discovered before succumbing to winter temperatures, though they were blue when found.

A baby boy no more than 2 hours old was found in San Diego behind a garbage can. The child was wrapped tightly in garbage bags and covered in soiled paper towels. Fortunately, his cries were heard and he was rescued.

We do not clearly understand why some mothers abandon their babies, but feelings of denial and economic issues are thought to play a large part in the problem. The senseless deaths that occur when babies are abandoned need never happen. Alternatives are available for mothers who find themselves pregnant and unable to care for a child. If you know someone who is pregnant and may need help, there are ways that you can help.

• If you know of someone that needs help—offer help. Don’t assume someone else is going to help them. Remember, it is more blessed to give than to receive—and you may be the only person they can turn to. Don’t’ become a door mat, but if they are willing to try to get the help they need, a ride to get groceries or to the doctor will make a big difference.

• Remember, stress builds up around the holidays and cases of child abuse and death increase.

• What can you do? Call the adoption hot line—1-800-923-6784—to obtain information about emergency baby or infant care options when a birth mother is just too stressed to care for her child and wants to place now.

• Provide time out—ask for help from your family or friends. Many women with these feelings are isolated and suffering from depression. If they crack, the child may be the one who is hurt—sometimes fatally.

• You can donate to organizations like www.LifetimeAdoptionFoundation.org to help these women. Organizations such as this provide many services—helping to educate women, paying for counseling, finding homes instead of foster care for children, and providing household items for women who need help getting back on their feet.

If you or someone you know needs confidential help, please Call 1-800-9ADOPT4 (1- 800-923-6784) for a free informational packet about adoption—sent confidentially. Or you can learn more about your options online at these web sites:

www.lifetimeadoption.com

www.birthmotherblessing.com

You can help save every child by offering the support someone in trouble may need.

If you are pregnant, know that you are not alone. Help is just a phone call away. 1 800 923-6784.


Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a speaker and award-winning author of two books, AdoptingOnline.com and Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide, talk show host of “Let’s Talk Adoption…with Mardie Caldwell”. For more information email at info@LetsTalkAdoption.com or by calling 530 432-7373.