Monday, November 06, 2006

Breaking the News to Your Parents: Help for Pregnant Teens

There are times when your parents may not be the easiest people in the world to talk with, and it is even worse if the subject of the conversation is something that you know will be upsetting. The important thing to remember is that if you are a pregnant teen, your parents are the people who are in the best position to help you handle your problem and make responsible decisions.

But how do you break the news?

Choose a time when you will have complete privacy with your parents, as well as their attention. Tell them that you have to talk to them about a serious matter and ask them if they will not interrupt you until you have finished.

From the first word you utter, be completely honest with your parents. Tell them exactly what your problem is and ask them for their help. Your parents love you and after the initial shock and hurt; they will want to be there to support you through this difficult time.

Start the conversation with a maturity that you will I expect you will need from now on. You are in a tough situation and facing it in a grown up way will make the road a little less rocky. Avoid arguing and sarcasm; remember that you will have to expect some anger from your parents, but at this time in your life, they could be the best friends you could have at this time in your life.

After the first shock has subsided and the waves of shock have faded; talk with your parents about how you will handle this situation. If you have decided to keep your baby and your parents agree to continue to let you live at home, what new rules will be involved?

It must be understood that if a young mother decides to live with her parents and keep her baby, it is very important that all parties involved including grandparents know that the responsibility and care for that child lies with the mother. Things could end up very messy later on if a definite line is not drawn.

If adoption is what you have in mind, ask your parents for their full support in this decision. After thinking the situation through, they will most likely be very supportive in whatever decision you have made.

Remember, your parents will very likely be pretty upset by this news; they love you very deeply and they probably had dreams for you that a pregnancy would likely put an end to. All parents want their children to be successful and happy and having a child at a young age tends to make achieving success a much more difficult accomplishment.

This of course will account for the root of their anger, but hang in there because that same love that is spurring that anger will win out and they will very likely want to stand by you through your hardships and pain during this difficult time in your life..

If you would like to speak to another girl or counselor to help you with your decision call Lifetime Adoption toll free at 1 800 923 -6784 – your call is confidential and you will never be pressured or judged.
You can also visit their site at Lifetime Adoption and you may also email them at adopt@lifetimeadoption.com